And after a longish sabbatical I come back to write a new blog, not that I was frequent at this before either.
America, the land of million opportunities, of playboys , casinos , strip clubs and what not, and on a more sobre note, a land of Ivy league Universities. But I wont be wasting time digressing on topics about university culture.This being my first blog after coming to America, it is natural that I talk about sex.
The Attitude:
Disclaimer: Prudes should probably stop reading beyond this point.
But what the heck , we all love to talk 'sex'. Be it in hushed tones behind curtains, or boisterously on streets. Yet no one ,the 'no one' includes lecherous indian men who ogle/stare more than an owl at night ( not that owls stare at females, only for them , to stare is to see...but you get the point), is more obsessed with sex than the friendly neighbourhood American teen. To elaborate: Every teen movie hitherto made in hollywood has a generous portion of love making invloved. I am sorry that was an understatement. What I meant was every hollywood teen flick is centered around sex! From little known 'Gossip Girl' to the more famous 'American Pie' series. I saw this new movie - Good Luck Chuck. It is an OK movie, mind you Jessica Alba is amazing, but the movie aint that good. The story is basically this: the Chuck guy, when he was 10, refused to show his penis to some gothic chick, who inturn hexed him that he will never find / keep his true love. Fast forward 20 years and this guy finds himself treated as a stepping stone to a perfect marriage. In other words, there is a myth among the 'ladies' of the city that if they slept with him once, the next guy they meet will be their soulmate. No comments on the credibility of this plot, but you see where this comes from, sex sells here.
People here are liberated , sex starved (though they have it aplenty), and hence really open about the whole thing.
Sex education:
Ill relate a personal experience. I had gone for this event called 'Passport' to ASU. It is basically a welcoming event for all freshman and first year graduates. There people from sex education had put up thier counter. SO I was just roaming about when this female comes to me and offers me 2 condoms. Shocking as it was, I realised she was from the counter and she was just promoting healthy practices. So I went up to thier counter and I see that apart from condoms, they were giving away dildos too. Well what can I say. I tried to act blithe. Back home sex-education is confined to 'Doordarshan' and 'Zara Si Saawdhani, Zindagi Bhar Aaasani!'
The Story:
Typical conversations on a Monday morning ( all characters are fictional. Any resemblence to any one living or dead is merely a coincidence...... But the conversations are close to the reality though)
To the right: Josh and Nathan.
To the left : Cynthia talking on phone with Natalie .
Josh and Nathan are 2 players in the football team and Cynthia is a cheer leader. Lets go listen to what they have to say.
Nathan: Dude! What are you saying man! You and Cynthia?
Josh: Really dude! No fuck. It was a feakish night! Could have boned her so hard that she would have screamed the shit out of her!
Nathan: After all these days. I never thought you'll make it. So finally you are together. You are the man!
Josh: Hey gotta go now. Take it easy!........
Cynthia: Natalie! You will not believe wha happened yesterday. Remember I told you how I fancy Josh?
Natalie: Who? The Quarterback?
Cynthia: Yes(mingled with excited giggling)! He asked me out after the game yesterday, can you believe that?
Natalie: whoopie! So how did it go?
Cynthia: I was like so thrilled! We went to Hooters on Mills and then in the night we made out at his place. He was so awesome! I could have gone on forever!
Natalie: No way! But did you guys have protection?
Cynthia: Oh yeah! He had everything ready, Plus I always have some pills with me... You never know ( giggles!)
Natalie: I am so happy for you. Ok I have to go now. Tell me all later.
You notice the difference in attitudes between the men and the women. But in the end it all boils down to this... everyone had sex yesterday night!
While India sex is never stated explicitely, it is always implied, always refered in hushed tones and indicated by furtive meaningful glances and giggles, here sex in itself is thrown about casually. People change partners like changing cloths.
We Indians Do not have sex...period!.......excuse me? Did you mention something? ... what?.. oh second largest population? Ahh oh well! We arent as prude as we seem eh?
